Beyond Labels
I recall a moment in my past, a blur in my drinking journey, when a loved one pointed at me with force, declaring, 'YOU'RE AN ALCOHOLIC,' as if it were a condemnation rather than a revelation.
It felt like an attack on my identity, as if labeling me as an alcoholic would magically unlock the reasons behind my drinking patterns. Yet, I extend grace to this individual, understanding that they, too, were hurting at the time. It's not easy to witness someone you care for struggle.
To those grappling with alcohol, especially those just beginning to navigate this journey, let me offer this: only you possess the power to define yourself. The early stages of this journey can feel overwhelming, confusing, and even isolating. You may not yet know what to call yourself or where you fit into the spectrum of sobriety, and that's okay.
And to anyone reading this with a loved one struggling with alcohol misuse, let me gently emphasize: hurling accusations at someone is not the path to healing.
Personally, I don’t label myself because labels don’t quite capture the essence of my experience. To me, I am someone who no longer drinks. I’m not anonymous. I share my experiences loudly because there’s zero shame in not getting along with booze. And you know what? That's perfectly fine, because this journey belongs to me and me alone.
What matters most is finding what resonates with you, what empowers you, and what guides you toward a healthier, happier life.
For me, empowerment comes from embracing my true self - Hayley. I once embraced life in a manner that brought about negative consequences and a side of me that I didn’t like. Now, I celebrate life... in a way that uplifts, motivates, and prioritizes my health and wellness.
That's the crux of it - I refuse to confine myself within the boundaries of a label. I don't introduce myself by my struggles. Because that's what works for me, and no one can dictate otherwise.
Ultimately, whether you're sober out of necessity or personal choice, it all leads to the same destination: a healthier, happier, and more vibrant life. Your journey is uniquely yours, and there's incredible beauty in that diversity.
Whatever term, and whatever words, resonate with you, know this: you're welcome here. There's no judgment on my end. And I extend the same grace to you.
Booze is like our mutual toxic ex, and honestly… good riddance.
You're not alone on this journey. Reach out, seek support, and above all, be gentle with yourself. You're deserving of compassion, understanding, and the opportunity to rewrite your story on your own terms.
-HM
